Control Your Own Identity

Your roles in each relationship are likely to affect how you identify yourself. My identity as a mother has remained, but parts of me have changed over the years.

My three sons have grown now and have moved entirely into lives of their own. They have moved to a world of work, friendship and, all other attachments. A separate sphere where I am, for the most part, a welcome visitor.

I have always believed that parenting is more about preparing them to be independent, to be competent and enthusiastic about moving into a meaningful adult lives and less about having ‘happy’ children indefinitely clingy and dependent.

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How to Stay Focused in Today’s Digital Environment

The quote by Josh Billings:  “Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there.” caught my attention.

I have tried to focus on my most important tasks, but I find staying focused to be an uphill battle. But instead of feeling defeated I have decided that I will benefit by paying attention to what is happening within myself that help me to move forward and feel more in control.

My first step is to accept where I am and treat myself with compassion by recognising my strengths, recalling challenges that I have overcome in the past, and affirming my capacity to solve problems.

The way we begin each day sets up the way we live each day. Finding the connection between mind and body is the key to knowing when to make a change. Awareness is the beginning of transformation.

Here 4 tips that have been helpful:

1. Maintain a good morning routine and be unapologetic about it

Many of us have decided to live a healthier lifestyle. We choose to wake up extra early, do meditation and go out to exercise, we follow that with a very healthy meal, and we are using it as a way to set up our day so that we can stay on track with our goals. We are doing something for ourselves. Don’t sabotage them, don’t feel guilty for having them. Schedule things for after and keep your routine and hold the ground.

2. Do a little self-analysis

How often do you ask yourself these questions?  How am I doing? How am I feeling at the moment? Are these things working for me? What are my successes? Where are the areas where I am slacking or not feeling great achievement? It is time just to schedule a meeting with yourself. Have a notepad to jot down some ideas of where you are and where you want to be. What is working, what’s not. We can prioritise and work on the areas that need more attention and continue to pursue the things that are. Get in touch with your Higher Self to generate wisdom, guidance, strength, hope. Our Inner Guidance will lead us when trying to make life changes and achieve our goals.

3. Honour your commitments

We have agreed to do certain things; we have a plan, it is the most joyful feeling to put into play what it is you have set up to do. Keep yourself on track in an organised way.

When you get in the habit of honouring your commitments, you develop a sense of power and control over your life.  You become the type of person who does what you say you are going to do, and as a result, your self-image starts to transform. You become a better and newer version of yourself.

4. Create an environment of total focus

How many of us fall prey to distractions, both internal and external. We switch on the computer,  and before we know it, we are sitting there for an hour without having done anything for ourselves. The same applies to Social Media, we continually checking our phone, we go to bed with it we wake up with the phone. Of course, we are going to do all of these things but giving up time for the things you want to do; you may well find the strength to focus.

Hope these things help you in your journey in whatever it is you set forth for yourself. It is a process in your mission and that we get to celebrate together.

I hope that your journey is giving you pleasure, it is giving you a little bit more insight into yourself.  I am curious to see how you are doing. Please share that below.

With much appreciation






Make 2018 Your Best Year Ever – 5 Ideas and How To Achieve Them

The New Year has just started, and it is the perfect opportunity to look forward and to re-evaluate some your life choices.

If you are looking for effective ways of changing your life for the better, here is a list of the most five common New Year’s resolutions with a piece of advice and links to useful articles that deal with the issue in greater detail to maximise your chances of not giving up by February.

1. Enjoy Life to the Fullest

According to psychologist Jonathan Fader, PhD, the key to enjoying life to the fullest lies not in making significant life changes, but in actively practising enjoyment of life as it currently is.

“Have a daily ritual around enjoyment: Upon waking, ask yourself, “What do I look forward to most today.” At the end of your day, ask yourself, “What was the most enjoyable part of my day and why?” wrote Fader in Three Ways To Enjoy Your Life More Psychology Today.

2. Exercise More

Do you want to feel better, have more energy and even add years to your life? Exercise is the way to go.

Exercise not only makes you physically fitter but also improves your mental health and a general sense of well-being. It can rev up your energy levels and even help you improve your mood.

Do you need more convincing? Check out this article from Time Health. It can lead you to a happier, healthier you.  7 Surprises Benefits of Exercise 

3. Eat Healthy Food

Switching to a healthier food can be incredibly challenging. We are all surrounded by cheap junk food. However, with a right amount of determination and some basic tips you can slowly develop healthier eating habits.

Would you like to find what your recommended daily amounts of nutrients should be, how to serve the perfect portion and recipes for women, mean, vegetarians, vegans, and pregnancy? You will find how to make you happy and healthy in the How To Eat A Balanced Diet by the BBC Good Food article.

4. Learn a New Skill

New exciting opportunities for education are now available through the digital world. People all over the world are using digital devices as part of their everyday experience. Google has access to a vast wealth of digital information, content and resources.

Online learning has made a considerable change in the educational system and opened great opportunities for everyone who wants to take any program or training course. You can always find a suitable class or even a degree program that you can follow from the comfort of your home.

There are plenty of options available. In The 5 Most Reliable Ways to Make Money Online, you will find the most lucrative ways to generate an additional source of income or for a full-time living. 

5. Achieve Financial Freedom

Part of achieving Financial freedom requires thinking positively about money. If you have an abundance mindset, you can obtain Personal Finance.

Stephen Covey explains these concepts beautifully in his classic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He writes:

The Abundance Mentality flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth or security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in the sharing of prestige, recognition, profits and decision-making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives and creativity.

The 7 Point Formula For Financial Freedom, Happiness and Wealth article by Brian Tracy will guide you to discover how to accumulate wealth, become happier, and achieve financial freedom.

May the Universe bless you in surprising and joyful ways. Happy New Year!

With much appreciation






5 Ways to Keep Energised and Healthy During The Festive Season

The festive season is upon us. We are all looking forward to celebrating with friends and family. Inviting food, delicious desserts, and plenty of Christmas drinks that it would be easy to let go of our health and wellness.

At the same time, looking and feeling at your best is essential so with these simple but effective methods you will feel energised and fit, not only this festive season but on a regular basis.

Spending 15 to 20 minutes on yourself every morning will ensure you get into a daily routine before other commitments, and it will kickstart your metabolism for the rest of the day.

1. Drink Plenty of Water

By Keeping yourself hydrated, you will help your body feel energised.  Every cell, tissue, and organ in your body needs water to work correctly.  Drinking 2 to 3 litres of water will give your skin a natural glow and helps weight loss. Your body uses water to maintain its temperature, remove waste, and lubricate your joints. Water is necessary for overall good health.

2. Meditation 

10 to 15 minutes Meditation will help you to feel more centred, more positive, quiet the internal chatter of the brain and reduce stress. It will allow you to focus your mind on better feeling thoughts.

The process of breathing is much more than an essential function of your physical body. It is the flowing of Spirit to you, and through you. Meditation is not an exercise of effort or trying, but instead a practice of releasing and allowing. Gently relax, breathe and enjoy.

Full, intense breath in … 1, 2, 3 and long, slow, natural breath out …. 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. In time, your body will remember its newfound rhythm.

3. Yoga Exercises

When you wake up in the morning, your body can be a little stiff, so gentle stretching exercises can be an excellent way to start your day and stay active.

Yoga has many benefits. It enhances flexibility with the regular use of restorative poses and helps you release the tension your body habitually holds.

Helps improve your immune system and it takes your body into a state that allows your body for renewal and rejuvenation. It quiets your mind and takes you to a place of stillness and peacefully basking in the present moment.

4. Take a Break

Christmas can be stressful so be sure to set aside time to relax and do something that replenishes you. Simple things like going for a morning walk or cycling. Climb stairs instead of using the lift. Have a long bath, read a good book or magazine, meet up with a friend or take a dance class, it will be fun, and it will keep you active.

5. Choose Wisely

Recent research suggests that we consume around 3,000 calories in our Christmas dinner.  This considerable feast not only contributes to weight gain but also to indigestion and heartburn – not to mention lethargy for the rest of the day, reducing the chances of you burning much of it.

If you plan to indulge, choose items that are only prepared on these special occasions but be sure to limit the portion.  Also, don’t skimp on the fruits and vegetables – these will help you to feel full and keep you from overeating the less healthy options.

May your heart and home be filled with all of the joys the festive season brings.  Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year!

With much appreciation


Reading Habits and Brain Benefits

How reading for six minutes can be enough to reduce stress levels and increases your brain power?

Studies have shown that reading stimulates the brain and researchers have found that it can reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s and dementia, by keeping your mind engaged.

Reading, in the recent years, has lost its appeal. People prefer mobiles and gadgets than reading an actual book. There is a debate between paper books and e-readers. Some talk about the sentimental versus the practical.  However, focusing can be challenging, and gadgets tend to reduce concentration. A book, on the other hand, does the opposite and helps you increase your focus.

Medical News Today published in the journal Social Science and Medicine claimed reading books could increase lifespan. Researchers are finding that reading may offer real benefits for health and well-being.

1. Best Way To Relax  

Psychologists believe this is because the human mind has to concentrate on reading and the distraction of being taken into a literary world eases the tensions in muscles and the heart. The research was carried out on a group of volunteers by consultancy Mindlab International at the University of Sussex.

2. It Builds Up Cognitive Reserve 

According to some studies, reading could help slow down or even prevent cognitive decline, and it may also help stave off more severe forms of cognitive impairment, such as Alzheimer’s disease.

“Reading the newspaper, writing letters, visiting a library, attending a play or playing games, such as chess or checkers, are all simple activities that can contribute to a healthier brain,” Dr Arfanakis said according to Rush University Medical Center in Chicago, IL news release.

3. Reading Increases the Quality of Sleep 

Smartphones have become our regular bedtime friend. According to research, it could cause more sleep disturbance.

A study published in the journal Social Science & Medicine found that using a smartphone just before bedtime is linked to shorter sleep duration and poorer sleep quality. The light emitted from the devices reduces production of melatonin in the brain – a hormone that tells us when to sleep.

National Institute on Aging highly recommends reading a book before sleeping. It promotes better sleep by easing the transition between wakefulness and drowsiness.

4. It Improves Appreciation 

According to the research article in Science magazine, reading a book, especially that of literary value, helps us improve our ability to understand other people’s feelings and the reasons for their reaction, decision and courses of action under certain circumstances. It enables us to enhance our human affairs in real life by looking at the events from different angles, and it is precious in our work and private life.

We hope you’ll be inspired to turn the page. Because, as science reminds us, it pays to increase your word power—today, tomorrow, and for the rest of your life.

If you are still not convinced, we’ll leave you with a quote from the American educator Charles William Eliot:

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers.”

With much appreciation