Control Your Own Identity

Your roles in each relationship are likely to affect how you identify yourself. My identity as a mother has remained, but parts of me have changed over the years.

My three sons have grown now and have moved entirely into lives of their own. They have moved to a world of work, friendship and, all other attachments. A separate sphere where I am, for the most part, a welcome visitor.

I have always believed that parenting is more about preparing them to be independent, to be competent and enthusiastic about moving into a meaningful adult lives and less about having ‘happy’ children indefinitely clingy and dependent.

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Make 2018 Your Best Year Ever – 5 Ideas and How To Achieve Them

The New Year has just started, and it is the perfect opportunity to look forward and to re-evaluate some your life choices.

If you are looking for effective ways of changing your life for the better, here is a list of the most five common New Year’s resolutions with a piece of advice and links to useful articles that deal with the issue in greater detail to maximise your chances of not giving up by February.

1. Enjoy Life to the Fullest

According to psychologist Jonathan Fader, PhD, the key to enjoying life to the fullest lies not in making significant life changes, but in actively practising enjoyment of life as it currently is.

“Have a daily ritual around enjoyment: Upon waking, ask yourself, “What do I look forward to most today.” At the end of your day, ask yourself, “What was the most enjoyable part of my day and why?” wrote Fader in Three Ways To Enjoy Your Life More Psychology Today.

2. Exercise More

Do you want to feel better, have more energy and even add years to your life? Exercise is the way to go.

Exercise not only makes you physically fitter but also improves your mental health and a general sense of well-being. It can rev up your energy levels and even help you improve your mood.

Do you need more convincing? Check out this article from Time Health. It can lead you to a happier, healthier you.  7 Surprises Benefits of Exercise 

3. Eat Healthy Food

Switching to a healthier food can be incredibly challenging. We are all surrounded by cheap junk food. However, with a right amount of determination and some basic tips you can slowly develop healthier eating habits.

Would you like to find what your recommended daily amounts of nutrients should be, how to serve the perfect portion and recipes for women, mean, vegetarians, vegans, and pregnancy? You will find how to make you happy and healthy in the How To Eat A Balanced Diet by the BBC Good Food article.

4. Learn a New Skill

New exciting opportunities for education are now available through the digital world. People all over the world are using digital devices as part of their everyday experience. Google has access to a vast wealth of digital information, content and resources.

Online learning has made a considerable change in the educational system and opened great opportunities for everyone who wants to take any program or training course. You can always find a suitable class or even a degree program that you can follow from the comfort of your home.

There are plenty of options available. In The 5 Most Reliable Ways to Make Money Online, you will find the most lucrative ways to generate an additional source of income or for a full-time living. 

5. Achieve Financial Freedom

Part of achieving Financial freedom requires thinking positively about money. If you have an abundance mindset, you can obtain Personal Finance.

Stephen Covey explains these concepts beautifully in his classic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He writes:

The Abundance Mentality flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth or security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in the sharing of prestige, recognition, profits and decision-making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives and creativity.

The 7 Point Formula For Financial Freedom, Happiness and Wealth article by Brian Tracy will guide you to discover how to accumulate wealth, become happier, and achieve financial freedom.

May the Universe bless you in surprising and joyful ways. Happy New Year!

With much appreciation

Luci

 

 

 

 

Reading Habits and Brain Benefits

How reading for six minutes can be enough to reduce stress levels and increases your brain power?

Studies have shown that reading stimulates the brain and researchers have found that it can reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s and dementia, by keeping your mind engaged.

Reading, in the recent years, has lost its appeal. People prefer mobiles and gadgets than reading an actual book. There is a debate between paper books and e-readers. Some talk about the sentimental versus the practical.  However, focusing can be challenging, and gadgets tend to reduce concentration. A book, on the other hand, does the opposite and helps you increase your focus.

Medical News Today published in the journal Social Science and Medicine claimed reading books could increase lifespan. Researchers are finding that reading may offer real benefits for health and well-being.

1. Best Way To Relax  

Psychologists believe this is because the human mind has to concentrate on reading and the distraction of being taken into a literary world eases the tensions in muscles and the heart. The research was carried out on a group of volunteers by consultancy Mindlab International at the University of Sussex.

2. It Builds Up Cognitive Reserve 

According to some studies, reading could help slow down or even prevent cognitive decline, and it may also help stave off more severe forms of cognitive impairment, such as Alzheimer’s disease.

“Reading the newspaper, writing letters, visiting a library, attending a play or playing games, such as chess or checkers, are all simple activities that can contribute to a healthier brain,” Dr Arfanakis said according to Rush University Medical Center in Chicago, IL news release.

3. Reading Increases the Quality of Sleep 

Smartphones have become our regular bedtime friend. According to research, it could cause more sleep disturbance.

A study published in the journal Social Science & Medicine found that using a smartphone just before bedtime is linked to shorter sleep duration and poorer sleep quality. The light emitted from the devices reduces production of melatonin in the brain – a hormone that tells us when to sleep.

National Institute on Aging highly recommends reading a book before sleeping. It promotes better sleep by easing the transition between wakefulness and drowsiness.

4. It Improves Appreciation 

According to the research article in Science magazine, reading a book, especially that of literary value, helps us improve our ability to understand other people’s feelings and the reasons for their reaction, decision and courses of action under certain circumstances. It enables us to enhance our human affairs in real life by looking at the events from different angles, and it is precious in our work and private life.

We hope you’ll be inspired to turn the page. Because, as science reminds us, it pays to increase your word power—today, tomorrow, and for the rest of your life.

If you are still not convinced, we’ll leave you with a quote from the American educator Charles William Eliot:

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers.”

With much appreciation

Luci

 

What Motivates You To Create A Mindset For Growth?

 HOW DO you INTERPRET CHALLENGES AND SETBACKS?AS A SIGN OF GROWTH OR IS IT AN INTERNAL MONOLOGUE FROM A JUDGING ONE? 
There is growth in every challenge and learning to use them are crucial for our happiness.

Let me tell you a story that illustrates how I started to create a mindset for growth. For over ten years I have been personally involved in caring for my husband who has a hip disability. In the early stages, I didn’t realise that I was taking on the caring role and the additional responsibility.

It was until I began to notice that our lives as a couple were starting to be different, from being an active couple, enjoying travelling and having a busy social life all of that was gradually changing.

His condition kept getting worse, and his doctor scheduled an urgent total hip replacement operation. Caring for my husband has been a rewarding and bonding experience, but it has also had an impact on many aspects of my life. The stress, the inability to have a break, lack of a social life and the difficulty in getting outside help are a few aspects that come with this role.

Eventually, all relationships will demand some compromise, but it is possible to compromise a bit too much without noticing that we are putting aside the things we enjoy.

So I started to seek balance, to plan time for self-care and to develop a new paradigm. To achieve these, I realised that it all starts with changing our mindset to one of growth.

Mark Twain, once said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So sail away from the safe harbour. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

I would like to share some helpful insights with you all, and it has inspired me to start a new blog.   These three simple but powerful techniques are an excellent start to create a mindset for growth.

1. Review Your Current Beliefs

Are your beliefs supporting you? Or Are they self-limited? The easiest way to change a mindset is to develop a meditative practice of visualising and affirming a new idea and programming that into our subconscious mind.

2. Cultivate a Sense of Purpose

A more significant purpose can motivate us to make a positive impact in our lives. A very personal mission can provide a clear mindset and joy. It brings people together for a common cause and encourages bond with one another.

3. Get Inspired by Role Models

Role models mean different things to different people – some of us look for guidance in personal growth, in our education, business, own lives and we strive to make the world a better place.

For me, the best way to expand my education and knowledge is to read biographies and autobiographies.  Stories of successful people can help us see how greatness think.

What about you? What other methods have been useful for you – and how are you implementing them? Feel free to tell us about your success in the comments.

Check out our weekly posts where we’ll cover more about the skills of habit formation, articles about education and training to discover in yourself your talents for an extraordinary potential for development and growth.

With much appreciation

Luci