Control Your Own Identity

Your roles in each relationship are likely to affect how you identify yourself. My identity as a mother has remained, but parts of me have changed over the years.

My three sons have grown now and have moved entirely into lives of their own. They have moved to a world of work, friendship and, all other attachments. A separate sphere where I am, for the most part, a welcome visitor.

I have always believed that parenting is more about preparing them to be independent, to be competent and enthusiastic about moving into a meaningful adult lives and less about having ‘happy’ children indefinitely clingy and dependent.

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How to Stay Focused in Today’s Digital Environment

The quote by Josh Billings:  “Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there.” caught my attention.

I have tried to focus on my most important tasks, but I find staying focused to be an uphill battle. But instead of feeling defeated I have decided that I will benefit by paying attention to what is happening within myself that help me to move forward and feel more in control.

My first step is to accept where I am and treat myself with compassion by recognising my strengths, recalling challenges that I have overcome in the past, and affirming my capacity to solve problems.

The way we begin each day sets up the way we live each day. Finding the connection between mind and body is the key to knowing when to make a change. Awareness is the beginning of transformation.

Here 4 tips that have been helpful:

1. Maintain a good morning routine and be unapologetic about it

Many of us have decided to live a healthier lifestyle. We choose to wake up extra early, do meditation and go out to exercise, we follow that with a very healthy meal, and we are using it as a way to set up our day so that we can stay on track with our goals. We are doing something for ourselves. Don’t sabotage them, don’t feel guilty for having them. Schedule things for after and keep your routine and hold the ground.

2. Do a little self-analysis

How often do you ask yourself these questions?  How am I doing? How am I feeling at the moment? Are these things working for me? What are my successes? Where are the areas where I am slacking or not feeling great achievement? It is time just to schedule a meeting with yourself. Have a notepad to jot down some ideas of where you are and where you want to be. What is working, what’s not. We can prioritise and work on the areas that need more attention and continue to pursue the things that are. Get in touch with your Higher Self to generate wisdom, guidance, strength, hope. Our Inner Guidance will lead us when trying to make life changes and achieve our goals.

3. Honour your commitments

We have agreed to do certain things; we have a plan, it is the most joyful feeling to put into play what it is you have set up to do. Keep yourself on track in an organised way.

When you get in the habit of honouring your commitments, you develop a sense of power and control over your life.  You become the type of person who does what you say you are going to do, and as a result, your self-image starts to transform. You become a better and newer version of yourself.

4. Create an environment of total focus

How many of us fall prey to distractions, both internal and external. We switch on the computer,  and before we know it, we are sitting there for an hour without having done anything for ourselves. The same applies to Social Media, we continually checking our phone, we go to bed with it we wake up with the phone. Of course, we are going to do all of these things but giving up time for the things you want to do; you may well find the strength to focus.

Hope these things help you in your journey in whatever it is you set forth for yourself. It is a process in your mission and that we get to celebrate together.

I hope that your journey is giving you pleasure, it is giving you a little bit more insight into yourself.  I am curious to see how you are doing. Please share that below.

With much appreciation






What Motivates You To Create A Mindset For Growth?

There is growth in every challenge and learning to use them are crucial for our happiness.

Let me tell you a story that illustrates how I started to create a mindset for growth. For over ten years I have been personally involved in caring for my husband who has a hip disability. In the early stages, I didn’t realise that I was taking on the caring role and the additional responsibility.

It was until I began to notice that our lives as a couple were starting to be different, from being an active couple, enjoying travelling and having a busy social life all of that was gradually changing.

His condition kept getting worse, and his doctor scheduled an urgent total hip replacement operation. Caring for my husband has been a rewarding and bonding experience, but it has also had an impact on many aspects of my life. The stress, the inability to have a break, lack of a social life and the difficulty in getting outside help are a few aspects that come with this role.

Eventually, all relationships will demand some compromise, but it is possible to compromise a bit too much without noticing that we are putting aside the things we enjoy.

So I started to seek balance, to plan time for self-care and to develop a new paradigm. To achieve these, I realised that it all starts with changing our mindset to one of growth.

Mark Twain, once said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So sail away from the safe harbour. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

I would like to share some helpful insights with you all, and it has inspired me to start a new blog.   These three simple but powerful techniques are an excellent start to create a mindset for growth.

1. Review Your Current Beliefs

Are your beliefs supporting you? Or Are they self-limited? The easiest way to change a mindset is to develop a meditative practice of visualising and affirming a new idea and programming that into our subconscious mind.

2. Cultivate a Sense of Purpose

A more significant purpose can motivate us to make a positive impact in our lives. A very personal mission can provide a clear mindset and joy. It brings people together for a common cause and encourages bond with one another.

3. Get Inspired by Role Models

Role models mean different things to different people – some of us look for guidance in personal growth, in our education, business, own lives and we strive to make the world a better place.

For me, the best way to expand my education and knowledge is to read biographies and autobiographies.  Stories of successful people can help us see how greatness think.

What about you? What other methods have been useful for you – and how are you implementing them? Feel free to tell us about your success in the comments.

Check out our weekly posts where we’ll cover more about the skills of habit formation, articles about education and training to discover in yourself your talents for an extraordinary potential for development and growth.

With much appreciation