Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values – Dalai Lama
What are your highest expectations for 2019? Are you ready to start fresh, connect with your core values and apply yourself to live a life with authentic alignment?
Every New Year the majority of people look back and question themselves if they achieved or followed all the promised resolutions throughout the year. Are you one of them?
Discovering Your Core Values
In my previous post, I talked about the importance of changing our mindset to better feeling thoughts so that you live your life on your terms. For me, this has been my constant journey for over a year. I started my core values by making a long list of qualities I am aspiring to achieve; the list kept increasing as there are many values or positive characteristics that I would love to incorporate in my life to become a better person.
However, it has not been an easy task at all. My challenge has been to apply a new principle while releasing the adopted values I received when I was growing up. And even though I want to change a lot of aspects of my personality, I am finding that by focusing on a fundamental value one at the time it has been more productive, allowing me to then work on the rest at a steady pace. To begin making progress on my personal development, I discover that five core values are easier to handle.
Identify Five of Your Most Important Values
Have you thought about the best cores values that are essential for you to improve your life in all areas? Take some time to define them. Once you do that, categorise them in order of importance. Identify the one essential core value for you to begin?
We picked our values when we are growing up, from other people, like our family, friends or significant others, these feeling and sentiments become our values, and they get so ingrained in us that they become the personal values we hold about ourselves and the world around us. But we very often forget that these values only apply to our lives, not to the world in general. The outcome is our existing values and beliefs — both of these give us an indication of whether or not they are of benefit to us or not.
I have been tuning my core values as a source of guidance, and they are beginning to make a lasting impact on my life. It is impressive how they shape our lives and make us who we are. I am, however, continually re-evaluating and re-shaping my beliefs and my core values to create more harmony within myself and to those around me.
Look at Your Values Objectively
Do your core values serve you or hold you up? Are these beliefs having a positive impact on your success and relationships, or are they holding you back? By taking an objective look at your feelings, and deciding how you can adjust them to suit your goals better, you can ultimately find more inner peace.
To reinforce my inner compass, I have made it a habit of spending at least a couple of hours every single day to focus on my core values and goals which will trigger the momentum to create my ideal lifestyle. As long as these goals are in sync with my core values as a person, they will sustain me in the long-term.
One thing is helping me a lot is to write down my core values and goals. I often re-write them by hand and refer to them often when I am working on a project. When I take a break, I look at my surroundings, and I feel appreciation for what I have already achieved in my life, this has served me enormously to focus on what I want and what I want to accomplish.
The Powerful Effect of Visualisation
More than likely you have heard that to maximise your potential the use of visualisation techniques are powerful. High achievers apply these practices to help them create their dream lives. These people seem to have super-powers that guide them to build their dream lives, one goal or task at a time with super focus and complete confidence.
Visualisation is a simple exercise. You sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes and imagine — as crystal clear as you can — what you would like to experience. Believe you have already achieved the ideal result. Make it as vivid as you can.
How to Become Present
Have you ever tried to become present? One way that has been helping me is to focus on my bodily sensations. I start by paying attention to my left foot. I focus on the feeling of it. I spend a minute on that foot, and then I turn to my right foot for another minute. And I go through my entire body while I listen to a piece of relaxing music. When I achieve this I know, I have been present at that moment.
My mind often drifts to the past or future, but the more I pay attention to the basic visualisation techniques, my thoughts come back into my awareness back to the present moment.
Ultimately, creating the lifestyle you’re passionate about is what truly matters – keep those passions alive and well so they can get you where you want to be.
Once again, I hope you find this post helpful. If so, please share your thoughts in the comments below.
In my next post, I will be talking about taking responsibility and believing in yourself.
P. S What virtues do you aspire to accomplish? What will you stand for as you discover your new core values? I would love to hear from you.
With much appreciation