We often hear words of encouragement about getting out of our comfort zone but, why is it too hard to break out of our comfort zone?
According to Wikipedia a comfort zone is a psychological state in which things feel familiar to a person, and they are at ease and in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress.
It feels uneasy to break out of our comfort zone but, what are the benefits when you are willing to step outside of your comfort zone?
My dad was a perfect example to see this in action. He came from an impoverished family. When he was in 3rd grade, he had to leave school, much of the regret of his teachers who tried to convince my grandad to let my dad stay at school as he was such a good student but the family needs came first, and my dad started work at a very young age.
As he didn’t have any studies, he could only work as a clerk in a grocery store, but from that early age, my dad demonstrated that he was reliable, hard worker, had initiative and good knowledge of the business. His employers were quite pleased with him and kept him for years as he became too valuable to the shop.
However, my dad wanted something more; he wanted to have his own business, he wanted to be the boss. He had this dream but not money. My mum saw his enthusiasm and determination, and she joined him in his excitement.
My dad continued working long hours in the shop while my mum kept working as a teacher but their pay wasn’t enough to build the funds to buy a business that my dad’s cousin had offered to him because it was near bankruptcy.
My mum, through work, knew a few people, and she approached them to borrow enough money to pay the first instalment to buy the business. She also asked our local grocer if she could pay at a later date for our daily food.
I still remember going with my mum to visit all these people and to the owner of our local grocery shop. I know it was a challenging thing for her to do but they all saw her sincerity and enthusiasm, and after a few months, my parents gathered enough money to pay the first instalment.
My dad finally had his own business, but he had to work a lot harder. His cousin owed a lot more money than expected and as a result, he had the total responsibility to pay all of those debts.
There were quite a few more years of hardship for all of us but seeing them working in harmony and managing money efficiently allowing them to pay what they owed to everyone and eventually built a very successful business; it was a great example to us.
To this date, whenever my brothers and I meet people who knew our parents, they always tell us how much they love and admire them.
From this experience I have three essential steps that I would like to share with you:
It takes courage
Embarking on a new journey is not easy for anyone. Those who found their “why” understand that is part of the process and they move forward and challenge themselves.
They Believe in Their Ability
It takes a tremendous amount of belief, power and conviction. They live their lives consistent with their highest values and aspirations
They Inspire Others
They have the endurance and courage to push through their fears, and they become role models for growth and change.
What would you attempt to do if you knew you would not fail? Robert Schuller
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With much appreciation