Can you answer these three simple questions:
- Are you having a good day?
- If you are having a good day; Why are you having a good day?
- Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day, or would you rather have a bad day?
Gen Kelsang Nyema asked these easy questions in her TEDxGreenville 2014 Conference. Gen is an American Buddhist nun who believes the gift of happiness truly lies within our own hearts and minds.
She is a resident teacher in the New Kadampa Tradition, Gen Nyema aims to help seekers develop inner peace by offering meditation classes and practical Buddhist advice suitable for busy modern life.
Out of the three questions,
When we are happy, we have a good day, and this is the kind of happiness we wish for in our inner self.
Gen’s teacher, Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, says: “Much of the time our mind is like a balloon in the wind, blown here and there by external circumstances.” Do you know that feeling?
When things go well, we feel happy, but if something goes wrong, our happy feeling disappears.
If our happiness depends on external conditions, then we will not have steady joy.
To experience happiness, we must disregard how things are – as well as our perception of how others are seeing us.
If we really wish to have a good day, we need to do two things:
- We need to stop depending on people and circumstances to make us happy, blaming others for our unhappiness will only make us unbalanced and insecure.
- We must actively cultivate a source of peace and a source of happiness coming from inside our mind.
“Happiness and unhappiness are states of mind, and therefore, their real causes cannot be found outside the mind.”
Our happiness is how we respond to those things that determine our state of mind.
How Can We Acquire a Joyful Peaceful Mind?
Become aware of your thoughts, and
Meditate – Meditation is a mental action of concentrating on a peaceful positive state of mind. We can do this all the time in our daily life. Tap into your potential to sense your Presence.
Gen will take you to a short meditation. If you are short of time and don’t have 16 minutes at the moment to watch the whole video, fast forward to 11:56 minutes to follow her short meditation:
“Sit comfortably, and place your feet flat on the floor, and your hands within your lap. And then you can lightly close your eyes and become aware of the sensation of your breath, at the tip of your nose. And as you breathe out, you can imagine you’re breathing out any agitation, any mental busyness, any frustration or unhappiness in your life. Breathe all out, like dark smoke.
“And as you breathe in, you can imagine and believe that you’re breathing in a clear, bright light, which is very nature of inner peace. And you can imagine that this clear, bright light fills your entire body and mind. And for a few seconds, simply enjoy this inner peace coming from within.”
“And now, as we finish, just be determined to bring this inner peace with you into the rest of your day to benefit yourself and others. So now, we rise from meditation. Thank you very much.”
Are you feeling happier already? Now, go out and share your smile with someone else. You will be happy you did it.
I hope you enjoy this video, and please share other techniques or steps you do to maintain the feeling of happiness. We’d love to hear from you.
To your success,