Would you agree that childhood moments have played a significant part in your life experience?
Looking back at my childhood I realised how much childhood and coming to maturity affects the rest of our lives and shapes our future for years.
I went through different emotional stages while growing up
Sadness because I had a loving dad who worked long hours and as a result, we hardly saw him. He was practically removed from family life.
Anger because my mum had to continue working as a teacher to help with the expenses plus she was expected to have the total responsibility for our upbringing and all the household tasks. She was always angry and demanding more of me to help her out.
Resentful because my brother had it easy, girls were supposed to do everything for the males of the house. My brothers were allowed to stay out playing with friends as long as they wished and choose whoever they wanted to play with. Not me, I was the girl, and the rules were different.
Security because money was an issue. Listening constantly to phrases like: “We can’t afford it,” “Money doesn’t grow on trees” “We are not rich, you can’t have that.” affected my beliefs about money.
So what happened next?
The right books started to come my way, and they evoked emotional awareness. I began embracing the unknown that leads to happiness.
“You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay was the right book for me at the time.
When I read to never put ourselves down for being where we are. That each one of us is doing the best we can at this very moment and by having more understanding and awareness, we would do things differently, was the beginning of a healing process for me.
It also tells us that it wouldn’t serve us to blame our parents for what we have been through because they could not possibly have taught us anything they didn’t know. They were doing the best they could do with what they have been taught as children.
To understand our parents better, it would be a good idea to get them to talk about their childhood, I did that, and from that point, I felt a lot of compassion and love for them.
The next step was to change my attitude towards my past and I found this paragraph from the book helpful:
“We Can Change Our Attitude Toward the Past. The past is over and done. We cannot change that now. Yet we can change our thoughts about the past.”
Louise Hay was an inspirational woman. She turned her life around and made positive changes not only for herself but for all the people who have benefited from her advice. She is loved by millions of people.
In the following video, Louise Hay talks about “Taking Mental Control” She teaches about how to quiet your mind using helpful affirmations. Hope you enjoy it just as much as I did.
How have your childhood experiences been affecting your life now? Let us know in the comments.
With much appreciation